5 ways to calm your wedding nerves

Your wedding day is the first day of the rest of your life, which can be scary to think about. Wedding nerves are extremely common among both brides and grooms – it’s supposed to be the best day of your life, so it’s perfectly normal to be feeling a little anxious on the big day. If you’ve found yourself feeling a little on edge on the lead up to your wedding, then our five tips to help you calm your wedding nerves are sure to help you.

 Causes of pre-wedding nerves

Wedding nerves are common among brides and grooms, but you shouldn’t feel bad for worrying – that’ll only give you something else to stress about. When people are getting anxious about their wedding, they often confuse this for having second thoughts about the person they’re about to marry, but they are two completely different things and it’s certainly no reason to call off the wedding.

You’ve probably just spent the best part of twelve months or more planning your dream wedding – if you’re a bride, you’ve probably been planning it since you were a little girl! After putting so much time and effort into planning your big day, it’s common to stress out about it, worrying about all of the little details and hoping everything goes smoothly.

Another cause of pre-wedding jitters is the fear of standing up in front of all your friends and family and having all eyes on you. This can instil fear in even the most confident people, but it’s certainly no reason to worry. When you’ve got a team of hair and makeup artists on hand and a gorgeous new dress, you’ll be feeling on top of the world.

How to calm your wedding nerves

No matter what the reasons are behind those butterflies in your stomach, there are plenty of ways to turn those nerves into excitement!


When you’re feeling anxious, it’s common for you to breathe irregularly without even realising it. If you can feel those knots in your stomach, take two minutes to really focus on your breathing. Start by taking a deep breath in through your nose and breathe slowly out through your mouth and continue for at least two minutes.

This breathing technique is one of the key components of meditation. Slow, controlled breathing prompts the brain to emit neurohormones which help to cease the activity of stress-producing hormones within the body, thus, making you feel calmer and less anxious.

Use the people around you

As you get ready for your wedding, you’ll be surrounded by those who know you inside out, so use them to your advantage – especially your bridesmaids. Your best friends will know exactly how to make you laugh and take your mind off your nerves, even if it is just for five minutes!

Not only this, but they’ll also be able to help you with any tasks on the morning of your wedding, including getting you drinks, helping you into your dress and any other tasks which may crop up. Your bridesmaids are there for you, so don’t be afraid to delegate.

However, it’s also important to mention that you should consider the number of people you’ll be spending time with on the morning of your wedding. A crowded, busy room will hardly do your nerves any favours, so try to surround yourself with a handful of people who will be of a calming influence.

Don’t forget to eat

Eating breakfast will be the last thing on the morning of the biggest day of your life, but it’s so important to eat something on the morning of your wedding.  You want to have something that will keep you alert and energised throughout the day, so try to have a good combination of protein, fats and carbohydrates to keep your energy levels up. Peanut butter on toast is the perfect option and won’t be too heavy on your stomach just before you get into your wedding gown.

Accept that not everything will go to plan

As much as you want your wedding day to be perfect, you have to accept that not everything will go to plan throughout the day. Whether it starts raining as you’re leaving for the ceremony, or your wedding breakfast comes out five minutes late – your stress levels will thank you if you accept that there may be a few minor glitches throughout the day.

If you follow all of these tips, you’re sure to stay cool, calm and relaxed on the big day. But as soon as you see your best friend at the other end of the aisle, we can assure you that all of those wedding nerves will float away.

The Wedding Pianist, Benjamin Clarke, is a professional musician with over twenty years’ experience in the industry. As a skilled pianist, Benjamin specialises in weddings and special events and has performed in some of the country’s most beautiful wedding venues. Learn more about Benjamin’s services on his website - www.theweddingpianist.co.uk
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